Every time I realise, through a process of deep immersion into my innermost issues, that yet another one of my issues is not exactly mine, that I carry it as a dowry from some ancestor, or my mother or father, I tend to get angry, feel irritated or hurt.
I often spoke of a “curse” that follows me, no matter what I do, how I do it, or where I do it. And this conclusion is always accompanied by a sense of suffocation underlying in a verbal reclamation of my “I can’t take this anymore,” or “I don’t deserve this anymore.”
And in most healing sessions I’ve done with others, I have seen time and again this rule proven, as a universal dynamic that seems to apply. Many, perhaps most, of the issues that trouble us in this life are not “ours,” or at least not “fully ours ours.” All of that is us, all of that concerns us, but not all of that is created within this cluster of cosmic time we conventionally refer to as “my current life” for our brain to comprehend.
Our life is a more quantum phenomenon. Spacetime expands, contracts, intersects; it is not static. Wherever you may stand in your beliefs, you know deep within that not all moments are the same. And usually, if you observe closely, you’ll see that in the moments you are most present in the phenomenon of your very own Being, you always experience the phenomenon of time expansion. In those moments, time may even seem static. And you are in no rush to leave those moments.
Think of 5–7 moments in your life that you easily and constantly remember. They are all still present because the spacetime of their life is ongoing. They didn’t just happen; they are still happening inside you.
And that’s how it is with the events of the Unified Field of Life of your family, your lineage, the tribes you belong to. Everything lives inside you simultaneously and interacts with you. Perhaps you’ll have a dream, or a strong and persistent thought during your day, or you’ll see an image that won’t leave you, or a sensory memory will overtake you, triggered by a scent or image that passed through you. Everything speaks within us, all the time, and all of it does so at exactly the right moment for you: when you have given yourself permission to move from your Fate to your Destiny.
But if you are not within your Fate, you cannot move toward your Destiny. Fate is your starting point, but even before that, it is your very foundation of earthy Beingness.
You cannot have a body and a presence in this life if you do not come from somewhere, if you do not have roots in the material world. These roots are all the ancestors who nourished the soil, made space, and invited you to plant your seed in their field of life and death.
Countless souls who chose love within themselves to make room for your incarnation as part of what belongs to them as their ancestry story, within the larger story of the human tribe. From one, you took the color of your eyes, from another your ability to philosophise, from a third your zest for life, from all of them, something.
Their gifts are not always dazzling, not all are to your liking, and some you’d like to return. For example, that fear of yours when it comes to relationships, or your difficulty in setting boundaries, or your limited ability to negotiate your pay in your work, these are not exactly the ancestral traits you enjoy as you try to navigate safely and successfully through the chaos of your own era.
Yet all of these together make up your roots. To stand firmly and be able to grow, you need that entire root system. Otherwise, you will very quickly disappear from the face of the Earth. That is why you said Yes to all of this, with everything it entails, with whatever cost, effort, and work it requires. And so, you also said Yes to your Fate.
Every time you complain, curse, or lament your Fate, you burn a part of your root system.
You destabilise your own well-being. You set fire to your own foundation. With fewer roots, you’ll grow weaker leaves, bear fewer fruits, harvest a smaller crop. Your life will operate in a smaller range, and most of the time, you won’t be able to see the bigger picture, because you won’t have developed the necessary height. Because as below, so above. To grow tall, your roots need to go deeper. Each time, deeper, and if also possible, wider.
And as you grow harmoniously, above and below, right and left, forward and backward, you experience movements that begin in Fate but open into the realm of Destiny.
So, who would you be without your Fate? You simply wouldn’t be. You just wouldn’t exist. You cannot exist without your Fate. You cannot Be without roots. You cannot grow without your foundation.
So, respect your Fate. The one that was given to you through the supreme intelligence of the very Source of Creation that made the heavens, the seas, the galaxies. With the same attention to detail, with the same kindness for your Light, with the same understanding of the mortality of all things that are not Eternal.
Look at your Fate. Every day. And smile at it. Say to it, “My Beloved.” “You for me, and I for you, and both of us for Life”. And live with it. Honor it, as your fundamental starting point, your essential beginning of everything, the great Yes of the thousands of ancestors who welcomed you with faith in the Light of your Being and with Love for your Destiny, whatever it costs them, whatever it demands from them, whatever it requires of their energy.
Live honoring your Fate, so you can forge the Consciousness that will lead you on the path you must walk to fulfill your Destiny.
Everything else, no matter what it falsely promises you, will always be lesser than this path.